Mother-in-law hangs photos of her son's ex-wife on the wall: daughter-in-law flies into a rage
For every perfect marriage, there is always one built on a weak foundation - and these shaky foundations are often reinforced by unhealthy relationships. This are also often relationships with some members of one's extended family and can be on either side of the family divide. It goes without saying that one of the most difficult relationships to establish is that between a daughter-in-law and mother-in-law. It is almost a law of nature that the latter will always be the most intrusive and inappropriate one; the former, instead, will be the one that will have to argue with and push back on the intrusions and violations of her mother-in-law. Do you know of any daughter-in-law / mother-in-law relationships that are healthy and balanced?
Certainly the story we want to tell you about today - published anonymously by a woman on Reddit - is no exception to the rule and, indeed, it strengthens even more the general axiom that a daughter-in-law will never get along with her husband's mother. In fact, according to what the subject of this story reported, it seems that her mother-in-law was particularly disrespectful towards her when she discovered that in her house her mother-in-law had hung a photograph on the wall of her husband's ex-wife.
Here is what she told the web, while trying to figure out if she was the "bad one" in this whole story: "My husband and I just bought our first house together. We love it and we are excited to furnish it together. Unfortunately my husband travels a lot for work and we had already received a load of new furniture deliveries but I could not handle it all by myself. My mother-in-law offered to help, and I accepted.
Yesterday I got home from work at 8pm and was shocked to see that one of the walls was full of framed pictures that she had hung. That wasn't the main problem as these pictures were from my husband's childhood, graduation, birthdays, etc and then I saw the biggest framed photo. The photo portrayed my husband and his ex on their wedding day (take note: she "adores" my husband's ex, mentions her all the time and remembers the years spent with her, and includes her in events and holidays that also caused problems between us). So I lashed out at her asking why the hell she had put that picture on the wall and how she figured it was an appropriate thing to do.
I told her to take it off, but she defended herself by saying "It's part of Derek's life and you can't erase it," then she talked about how many hours she spent working on that wall and how I should try to be a little more grateful. I lost my temper and I upset her. But she kept arguing with me - she tried to say that it was not only the ex wife in the photo but also my husband. But I told her I would throw it away after she left. I told her to leave and that she was banned from ever coming back. Then she stormed out and she started texting me, calling me jealous and bossy. "
And as if that weren't enough, the story certainly didn't end there. The woman explained: "She called my husband and forwarded him a screenshot of a text I had sent banning her from our house. He called me and we talked. He said his mother should have acted better, but that banishing her from home was an overreaction. He tried to get me to call her and cancel the ban, but I refused, and then I complained about how unfair it was to make such a decision when it's our home not just his. The conversation went nowhere and now I'm waiting for him to come home to talk further. My in-laws are now also mad at me, saying that I overreacted and urged me to let my mother-in-law back into the house and drop the whole thing. What do you think I should do? "
Most Reddit users obviously took the side of the offended daughter-in-law, but it is certainly not a situation where it is easy to say what is definitely right and what is wrong, who is bad or who is not: what do you think ?