"Never go to bed with anger in your heart," says a three-year-old girl as she gives her mom a lesson in forgiveness
Raising children is a valuable opportunity for adults to improve themselves.
It is not infrequent, in fact, that precisely from these little human beings that we often consider too young to understand life, that instead, we receive teachings that make us stop and, perhaps, even shed a tear.
Are they the ones who are too smart for their age or we the ones who have allowed the gears of our hearts to rust?
Mary Katherine Backstrom is a blogger mom who posted on her Facebook profile a story that happened between her and her 3-year-old daughter, who taught her the true meaning of forgiveness.
My daughter and I just had a knock-down, drag-out bedtime hour. Finally, about ten minutes ago, I put her to bed and through clinched teeth said “I love you, Holland, but not another word tonight. You are going to sleep now. I’m done fussing over stuffed animals.”
I paused on the way out the door, literally biting my tongue, I was so frustrated.
“What is it, Holland?”
“I DO have one more thing to say.”
Of course, she did. She was standing on the bed with her hands on her hips, too. Her hair was wild and she was using her arm to wipe her tears and snot away from her face.
“Mommy,” my three-year-old said, staring me down with venom in her tiny voice...
“I FORGIVE YOU!!!”
Then she laid down and cried and honest to goodness, for a hot minute, I didn’t know what to do.
The way she said “I forgive you”, made it sound like cuss words.
I walked over to the bedside and leaned over.
“Baby girl, do you know what forgiveness means?”
She was still sniffling, her face shoved deep into her Little Mermaid pillow.
“Yes,” she muttered.
I really had to hear this.
“It means you were wrong, and I’m tired of being mad, and now I’m going to sleep and my heart won’t have a tummy ache.”
So there you have it, folks.
Tonight, I was taught a lesson in forgiveness by a three-year-old. It was a gut punch, too. And you’re dang right I climbed in that bed and loved on her.
Because to be honest, MY heart had a bit of a tummy ache.
I was reminded by my toddler to never go to bed in anger. Because when you do, your heart will have a tummy ache.
And you know what? I’ve been alive for 35 years, and I’ve got to give it to her:
She’s not wrong.”
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Children have wisdom within them that often escapes us, adults. But luckily, with their frankness, they do not stop transmitting it to us! And you, what have you learned from your children?