After 25 years of marriage, he confesses to his wife that he is gay and she accepts it: "I'm happy for you"

Mark Bennett

June 30, 2022

After 25 years of marriage, he confesses to his wife that he is gay and she accepts it:

Sometimes, you manage to lie to yourself about something throughout your life, feeding a sense of guilt that sooner or later prevents you from living in peace and tranquility. Probably, Shaun Williams must have felt this way - he has decided to finally get rid of a great burden, after 25 years of marriage and having four daughters. The 52-year-old has finally managed to be honest with himself and his family, coming out as gay and starting a new chapter in his life. There are many reasons that have led him to live a lie for so long, but what matters is that he managed to deal with it and that his family accepted him for the wonderful man he has always been.

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Shaun Williams, from Australia, got married in the late 1990s when he was 27. At the time, he could never have faced the "shame" and "fear" of exposing his true identity to the world and that is why he has always hidden behind a mask of being a regular husband and father of a family.

"I suppressed the thoughts, I decided it was going to be something I would take to my grave. I grew up in the 1980s when there was a lot of anti-gay attacks and all the AIDS hype, so I was too scared to come out of the closet. It was really challenging. I hurt myself and a lot of people along the way," commented the 52-year-old.

Of course, Shaun was very conflicted in his mind until the end, because he knew he was going to lose his family and that, in any case, things would change. But after consulting with his psychotherapist, he decided to take the plunge. To tell the truth: it took him more than a year even to confess his secret to the psychologist, but then he found the strength to deal with his wife and, finally, with his daughters.
"I didn't know how my family would react. I told my wife and children the next day. I left the family home out of respect for them, but it was difficult because I didn't know who to turn to, I felt very lonely," said Shaun.
To face loneliness, Shaun created a Facebook group dedicated to all those fathers who, one day, realized that they cannot continue to live by lying to themselves and their loved ones. He was very surprised that there were so many other men who had lived the same life as he had. "I felt very lonely and it took me about six months to really find my way" continued the man, "I felt isolated. So I said to myself 'there must be other people going through this same thing'". Of course, Shaun wasn't wrong.


"I was really surprised that there were so many like me around. There is a world full of men who lived like me, with the shame and guilt that we went through," commented Shaun. Today, finally free from the lies, he lives with his partner and continues to be an exceptional father: "I'm in a great place and now I'm a better father. I still feel the guilt and shame from time to time, but I know that I can overcome it ".