When a man leaves his family for another woman: a look at the implications of infidelity

by Shirley Marie Bradby

December 19, 2019

When a man leaves his family for another woman: a look at the implications of infidelity
Advertisement

After working so hard to establish a serious love relationship and start a family, after having loved so much, and having created and raised your children something happens inside you.

After having fought for everything to function and be successful in your family life, and you still love your wife very much, but there comes a time when you get tired or just feel like giving up.

It is not about rejecting your family or not acknowledging what you have built and accomplished together, it simply a moment of temporary emotional exhaustion. And this happens to many men.

via New York Post

Advertisement
Needpix

Needpix

At that point, you try to get rid of a few of your responsibilities, you want to decrease that sense of exhaustion, but none of that means you do not love your family.

It is just that after so many years, your emotional state is very fragile and without thinking about it too much, you are looking for a way to free yourself so that you can feel better.

Consequently, you end up in the arms of another woman, perhaps younger, who requires, however, equal or more responsibility.

Then you will also find yourself taking care of her children, who are not your children and, in addition, you will have to continue to fulfill your responsibilities to your own family.

Leaving your family for another woman with another family is as if you had been building a ship for a long time, polishing it, making all the enviable details, and then once you are ready to set sail, you abandon the project because you are tired of building the ship!

Perhaps there comes a time when a man simply feels exhausted, but he is not tired of his family, he only needs some time to analyze what he has experienced and what he has managed to accomplish.

You think you will feel better, and you assume that your life will be more pleasant by taking a different path, but the reality is that it is not like that at all.

Advertisement
Alon/Flickr

Alon/Flickr

It is not that a man in this situation stops loving his family; he still loves his family. But the daily effort and struggle confuse him and make him doubt the decisions he made in the past. Moreover, he starts to think that it is the family environment that is overwhelming him.

He does not realize that the struggle is internal and it is his and his alone. He must understand that it is an internal war that only he must fight without making the huge mistake of leaving his family and ending up alone, without anyone to help him.

A man in these circumstances needs practical advice. Such as talking about what he feels with his family, or perhaps with a specialist.

Revealing your feelings and finding a solution to your emotional exhaustion and fragility, together with your family or a psychotherapist means taking the correct and necessary measures so that you do not take the wrong road.

Namely, that road that leads you to make the drastic decision to leave your family that will cause you to experience a regret that becomes increasingly more devastating over time.

Advertisement