An exhausted wife leaves the house and the children in her husband's hands: after only two days he's learned his lesson
Couples have to deal with beautiful things but also less beautiful things: quarrels and misunderstandings are part of being together and each person faces these moments in their own way. One man, after a long and stressful day at work, returned home to his family exhausted. He just wanted to sit and watch his favorite team's football game, without being bothered by his children or wife. The latter did not react well and the couple had a big argument: she left the house and didn't return, neither that evening nor the next day.
After two days, in which the man was forced to take care of the house and children, the husband wrote a letter to his wife:
two nights ago we had a big argument. I was exhausted when I got home from work. It was 8pm and all I wanted was to lie down and watch the game. You weren't in a good mood and were clearly tired after a long day. You were trying to get the baby to sleep while the other kids were arguing, and all I did was turn up the volume. "Would you mind playing a more active role in your children's upbringing?" you asked, turning down the volume on the TV again. "You could also help more around the house."
“'Hey,' I said defensively. "I work hard just to let you play in the house all day." The discussion continued like this. I said terrible things that I will never repeat and you shouted, saying you were tired of everything. So you ran out of the house in tears, leaving me to take care of the children by myself. I had to feed them and put them to bed. When you didn't come back the next day, I asked my boss if I could take a day off so I could take care of the kids."
"[...] I lived two days and two nights like you, and I think I understand now. I have your tiredness. I understand that being a mother is all about sacrifice. I understand that it is more tiring than being among the big shots at work for 10 hours and making financial decisions. I realize how frustrated you must be to have sacrificed your job and your financial freedom so that you can take care of our children. I understand how uncertain you are that your financial security now depends on your partner and not just on you. I understand how difficult it is not to be able to hang out with your friends, exercise or sleep well at night."
“I understand how difficult it is to be stuck at home and forced to look after the children while imagining what you are missing in the outside world. I also understand why you get angry when my mother criticizes the way you choose to raise our children: no one in the world knows what is best for children like their own mother. I understand that being a mother means carrying the greatest burdens of society. Being the person that nobody appreciates, values or remembers. I am writing you this letter not only to tell you what you missed, but also because I don't want to spend another day without saying: "You are strong, you are doing a great job and I admire you." "
This letter, written by the husband after walking in his wife's shoes for a few days, makes us reflect on the role of women in the family and on the sacrifices they often have to make.