The hug that attracts you most can help you understand what matters most to you in a relationship
July 30, 2019
Even people less prone to romance cannot deny that receiving a hug or an embrace from a loved one is one of the most energizing and pleasing things that exists.
In fact, after a long day or maybe in a difficult moment, this type of positive contact with our significant other is able to give us comfort and functions like a real antidepressant!
But a hug or embrace can also do much more! In fact, depending on the type of physical contact we have with a person, it can tell us what we are most looking for in a love relationship.
In this regard, look carefully at the illustration here below. The type of hug or embrace that you instinctively choose will reveal what is most important for you in a relationship.
Observe the image and choose the hug that instinctively attracts you the most:
Hug number 1
If you chose the first hug it means that friendship is fundamental to you in a relationship.
You like being able to trust the other person and being able to be yourself, just like you would do with your best friend.
Other aspects, like the need to maintain your space and a bit of so-called "mystery", interest you less because, for you, complicity and cooperation with your partner come first!
Hug number 2
Passion is the fundamental basis for you for building a relationship! The continued presence of that magic "chemistry" is important to maintain a solid and lasting love relationship.
For this reason, you tend to never neglect the aspects of your life that can keep that passion alive, and you expect your partner to do the same.
Especially, in a very long relationship, it is important for you to make time for intimacy and situations as a couple that keep that original spark alive that gave birth to the relationship. For you, complicity, affection, and friendship come later!
Hug number 3
Security is a very important value that you want to find in the other person. You need a partner at your side that you can trust to help you make the right decisions.
It may be that you have this need because you are a little uncertain and you are looking for someone who is complementary to you in this aspect.
But it may also be that you feel at the mercy of your emotions, and need someone who will make you think before you act and put you back on track if necessary.
In short, you want to be with a strong and determined person who fully understands you.
Hug number 4
A single watchword: trust. It is important for you to trust your partner and to be able to let them have their space without doubting their honesty and straightforwardness.
If you find yourself having any suspicions or becoming an investigator, you immediately lose interest in the other person, because without trust, for you, it makes no sense to be together.
However, in parallel, you like to carve out your own spaces, because you tend to reciprocate and give to the other person the same honesty that you expect from them. Consequently, you have no problem cultivating friendships or activities outside the primary couple relationship.